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Feeling it for 2020's New Year's Resolutions or think they're a total waste of time? Muddy ed-in-chief Hero and HQ staffer Nancy duke it out.



Anyone who adores making lists in pretty booklets – c’est moi! – will never give up the urge to create an immaculate set of New Year’s Resolutions. So what if they don’t work? (it’s true, they don’t). So what if they’re the same ones from last year and the year before? I don’t think you’ll find anyone who honestly believes they’re going to nail a two stone weight loss, ace a new language, travel to obscure parts of South East Asia, and finding time to cook a palatable vegan meal from scratch every night in their 2020. But frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn, because I find something cathartic and rather beautiful about looking forward to a new year, believing that I’m in control, even if it’s just for a few days, and feeling that wonderful sense of optimism, of slates wiped clean, of something better around the corner.

My resolutions this year are a variation on a theme. Weight loss yes, but with the emphasis on wellbeing and personal health. More interesting travel (I’m done with the package holiday). Better quality time with the ball and chain – more active experiences, less pigging out in pubs. Being a better friend, daughter, wife, mother but starting with being kinder to myself (come on, I’m not stupid!). Be a New Year cynic if you must, but indulge the dreamers – because, actually, dreams can come true when the biscuit barrel is hidden for long enough.



I simply can’t get behind New Year’s Resolutions. In truth, I once attempted to give up chocolate only to find myself scoffing a tub of leftover Celebrations at 3am on 2 Jan. But my problem doesn’t just stem from my inability to resist a Malteasers Teaser (oh, come on, they’re delicious) but that, these days people’s resolutions are so half hearted and meaningless. I’ll hold my hands up, my attempt to give up chocolate doesn’t really mean anything at all, plus I was only going to do it for a month!

A resolution should be something that you want to change for the long haul, like being nicer to your mother (as hard as it may be), or making an effort to balance work/life more effectively. If I can’t succeed at a rubbish one, where does that leave people who’re trying to make a real change in their lives? In fact, I don’t know a single person who’s successfully stuck to a New Year’s resolution, and if you can name one, I’ll give you a tenner. In my opinion, you’re setting yourself up for failure and right at the beginning of the year, too.

Which brings me to my next point – why the New Year, who decided that Jan 1 is the signal day of the year when you can decide to change something about yourself? I appreciate that it’s cathartic, a tabula rasa (blah, blah, blah) but why wait? If you want to make a change you should just do it right here, right now. You’re much more likely to succeed and you’ll save yourself a whole load of pressure. Bah humbug, over and out.

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